This is going to be very frank.
I screwed up. I didnt pay attention to my own cardinal rule - rememeber: we are all people.
When alliances were created, I was invited to join sand dunes. I mentioned Id like to bring my family, and that was agreed upon and ok. The thing is, communication is hard, and so miscommunication is easy. It didnt occur to me to let the alliance know that my family is 10 people big, nor did it occur to me to bring it up - just as it didn’t occur to them to ask.
No wrong doing here, just miscommunication.
As it began to be understood just how big my family was, concerns were brought up - in a very kind and private way. It was offered that I could keep 3 or so members, but I wasn’t willing to ditch my family.
Thats when things went wrong.
I offered to leave with my family. It was explained there was a waiting list to enter SD, and they wanted to be fair. And let me state - this is a very reasonable request especially considering the limitations. However, I was hoping the answer would be “No, dont go! You can all stay.” Instead it was a very kind acceptance of may offer, stating they were sorry to see me go - and stating they hoped we would still be friends. Though i was hurt, I pretended I wasn’t and said absolutely.
I wasn’t being honest. I was hurt. Its no excuse, and I should have been better. But instead, I let it fester.
Then I deliberately started drama.
In the process I’d hurt some good folks. I did indeed make it look like SD was an elitist alliance.
And that was wrong.
I am sorry.
@Hersh , buddy, I hope you can forgive me. If nothing else, forgiveness releases a burden from us.
I hope we can all continue to be friends. The folks in Sand Dunes are good people.
I will be starting my own alliance soon, but I felt I needed to do this first. This is NOT a recruitment thread, so please dont ask about it here.
I dont even expect any responses or likes or anything. This is me, as a person, trying to make things right that I did wrong and affected other people.
Thank you for reading.